Money And Your Relationship
Generations ago and still in some cultures, you’re encouraged to marry a wealthy man if you’re a woman of modest means. We had a period where we were just marrying our high school sweethearts before going off to war, but now we’re swinging back around to economical marriages and it’s such a silly thing to do. Money has no place in your relationship or marriage. Which brings me to point number one.
1. Don’t look for a rich partner because you’re broke.
And don’t expect anyone to give you a free ride. If you’re a Millennial, you’re probably broke anyway. Thanks, baby boomer generation.
2. You should be able to pay for your own things.
My parents were from a generation of joint back accounts. These days I’m seeing more and more couples with separate finances that have joint accounts for specific expenses, like rents and mortgages or other bills. It stems from the reality that we all need to be able to cover our own expenses.
3. The amount of money you make doesn’t define you.
Would you rather be with someone who was awesome but not financially sound or someone rich and awful?
4. Money is temporary anyway.
Hey, you can’t take it with you. Money can go away in a heart beat but your relationship can be with you forever.
5. You can’t buy love.
It’s something you build through human interaction.
6. It’s weird to loan money.
It’s such a touchy subject loaning people money and it’s a recipe for disaster in a relationship.
7. You’ll be happier.
It’s true that money buys happiness, but only if you spend it on experiences, not stuff. Science!
8. Money isn’t what you should bring to the relationship.
Bring yourself to the relationship! You have lots of good qualities. Being able to buy stuff shouldn’t be one of them.
9. Don’t let yourself be bought.
Pretty self explanatory. You’re worth so much more than money.
10. Money can bring out a lot of ugliness in people.
Writes the guy currently going through a bunch of family drama over inheritance money.
11. Money won’t save your relationship.
Plain and simple.